Sing With Confidence
What’s confidence? Confidence is the “knowing” state. Not the intellectual knowing of things. That’s just data stored in your head. Confidence is when “you know you know”. In other words, you know what you’re doing, and you know that you know what you’re doing. It’s a deep sense of competence within you in a certain task.
Singing is the same thing. Singing confidently comes from having the knowledge to sing a certain style or way that suits you. When confidence is there, your personality can shine through. Confidence has a lot to do with competence and comfort. You have to be competent to be confident. If you’re not secure in the knowledge that you can hit that high note, or do that complicated run, you’ll be wasting a lot of energy worrying about it while you sing and not get it done. You have to know that you know.
Being comfortable in your own skin is also a good source of confidence. I can sing country music. I can sing all the notes, do all the runs, and basically get it done musically. But I’m not a fan of country music. So at first, when I’m learning it, I might sound awkward. All the musical notes are in order, but the audience won’t be entertained.
Because the audience enjoys music more on a subconscious level, they would be able to feel that I’m not sincerely interested in the music I sing. Therefore they would conclude that I’m not a confident singer. I am a confident singer; I’m just not a confident country singer. But that doesn’t matter to an audience, so the singer better get his act together.
How do I get more confident in singing? The short answer is you don’t. Art is you. It’s a reflection of who you are. When you sing, the person that you present to the audience, and the emotions: sadness, anger, pride, fear, etc, are an extension of yourself. Whoever you are in real life will come up when you sing. The only remedy to this is to work on yourself.
There are a few types of singers in this world:
1) Feel, no technique – the most common type. These people sing songs that they love and really can relate to the songs. But their technique is not good enough to deliver the most subtle or the rawest emotions needed in the song. Everyone starts here.
2) Good technique, no feel – these are the singers who are competent enough to have albums and songs written but could never figure out what the audience want. They have limited success and will never be successful unless they learn to communicate with the audience. People often buy their records because of the sheer proficiency of their technique. But most of their songs are forgettable.
3) Good technique, good feel – this is what people would gladly pay to hear. Not only do they have a feel for what the audience wants, they also have enough technique to deliver the song so that it resonates with the audience’s emotions. People cry, scream, jump, and dance to their songs. This is the level where you get the maximum satisfaction as a singer, because you manage to lead the audience from a neutral feeling to the highest emotional peaks, or the lowest troughs.
Getting to stage 3 is a life-long journey, people who have made it enjoy phenomenal success and satisfaction. Getting there is all about the audience. It’s not about us as singers wanting to be heard. We have to connect with the audience. Make them feel understood. Take them away to a place where their worries are gone for the moment. When you bring them back to reality, make it such a grand finale that they can’t believe the show’s over. They’ll go home satisfied but wanting more of you.